Needless to say, when you talked here about this sexist behavior from the women...well, for men it's kinda different. You don't feel threatened by this. But women do...they feel vulnerable when men are hitting on them and often feel scared for their life.
Some men may welcome unsolicited sexual advances, but not all. In fact I know a couple, who I would call shy men, and they would absolutely shrink inside themselves if they were sexually harassed by a woman... or man. They are not go-getters in that respect and do not expect it to be done to them. Both are happily married nowadays, and the prospect of unwanted sexual advances would horrify them even more, cos both are loyal to their wives.
As a woman, I have lived for a couple months in a country, where men were used to cat call a lot. It happened to me that I felt bad just to walk on the street because they were stopping their cars to talk to me and I felt threatened by them. Sometimes I ended up running through the small back streets to avoid them. And kept looking back to make sure no one follows me home. It was not pleasant experience at all! And the funny thing, when I went somewhere with my husband, nothing like that ever happened.
I may have been a bit sassy in my younger days and brimming with testosterone, wolf whistling and all that stuff, but I grew out of that sooner rather than later. With growing maturity and wisdom, becoming a father for the first time, I began to take my relationships more seriously, so by the time I was 24 I had changed from being a wolf whistling lout to being far more conservative. It wasn't that I stopped admiring women, because yeah, I still looked, but I did it quietly and there was no thought of straying because I valued my wife and marriage.... my son.
At 64 I still admire beautiful women of all ages, from young ones in their teens to women my own age and older, but it's not desire or sexually motivated, not like it may have been in my younger years. Even then, though, there were women who I thought were beautiful, both on the inside and out, but I viewed them in a different light because they were friends, somebody I highly respected or they were in a relationship with someone else.
At the end of the day it comes down to respect for our fellow human beings, male and female alike, especially those we love... or are supposed to. Sadly, not all human beings see it that way and behave like predators hunting for prey, and married or not, they're always on the prowl for more sexual conquests, regardless of at whose expense they come. Mans inhumanity to man is appalling at the best of times, but when powerful people use their power and influence to inflict bad intent on the unwilling it is even more appalling. Evil is probably the correct term here.
Sex is something that should be shared between two loving and consenting adults, Anything less is a primal urge gone wrong... IMHO.
