I as the others feel your pain. I am in the process of going through it now myself. (My GOODNESS I am 58???). Best of luck!
My Mother just couldn’t live by herself anymore (she just wanted independence). I had been trying for years to get her to come live here. My mother has been bouncing around so much of late, but it never worked out for her. She was not religious enough for my youngest brother (she is a Christian?), nor was she queer enough for the middle brother (who is). So after years of trying, I flew out to Texas and rescued her from the persecution of my youngest brother and brought here, Home.
She now lives with me and professes to never have been happier (since my Dad died many years ago). And although she is here for me to care for, the damage is all done … and I can only sit back and hopelessly watch her die (painfully) and try to make her comfortable. This is absolutely the most difficult thing I have ever had to do … so I do understand your pain.