I dont recall ever seeing a 'Goodbye' post where the person really left. In my opinion, it's just a cry for attention. If I ever leave (yeah, like that's gonna happen) I will not make a post about it, I will just...go.
.and are complete in other aspects of your life. Not everybody here is as blessed as some of the rest of us.
My point exactly when I said there are bigger and/or other issues. How are we supposed to know? When someone is crying and saying 'farewell' because their 'real' life is incomplete and they can't fill it with what they find 'virtually'. I don't know that the real reason they are saying farewell is because they don't feel accepted at work or their father told them 'You should have been a boy.". I AM here if thats what they wanna talk about. I AM willing to listen. But there is a big difference between someone who says 'I'm gonna hold my breath til I turn blue , you'll see" and someone who's holding a bottle of pills in one hand and a glass of water in the other.
Just for an example.......John and I have gotten into it over 'crap'. We've gotten sarcastic, we've danced on the edge of a line I don't believe either of us has any desire to cross. Me, because I respect him and his talent. Him, because he knows that I am just that fucking awesome. But in all the dissagreeing between each other and whoever sides with the other (and most side with me because I really am that fucking awesome) , we don't threaten to leave. And I am sure we both (him more than me) have our own damn baggage and personal issues. Now, take someone like Jafo whose sole puprose (well, it seems like it to me sometimes) is to be abused, disagreed with, called names, be ridiculed, etc., etc. Now THERE is someone who has earned the right to post a great big giant 'Fuck You All And The Brush You Rode In On' post. But he keeps on dishing it out. Hell, he has the ability to BAN! And he doesn't abuse that!
If a person has issues in the real world and those issues are going to dictate their behavior in the virtual world (with or without their knowledge) , they should be aware of them. If someone else makes a comment that hurts them, maybe it's because something they thought they could escape from isn't gonna just not exist because they are in a virtual world. Everyone else is bringing their baggage to. Some just have better control over it. You couldn't pull a farewell post at a lot of 'jobs' because they would show you the door. In the real world, even friends, associates, AND family get tired of EMPTY threats and having to soothe an ego that has more self-inflicted, internal, and outdated issues than have to do with the topic at hand. Sooner or later, you have to pull yourself up at least half-way by your own bootstraps.
All of this was over ONE post. Not constant abuse. Not abuse from a majority of the community, or from a majority of the mods or admins. It's because the intent and appropriateness of the post was 'questioned'. And by three or four people out of what?...over three million members? And of those that 'questioned' the post...are they GOOD friends whose opinions are valued? Are they consulted every morning before decisions are made for the rest of the day? What fucking weight do they carry? Hell, I stopped giving my own mother that much power over me when I was 20.
Finally, though my daughter has not actually thumped her head on the floor, she knows what a pussy I am when she turns on the tears. I love her. I have gotten off of my tired ass when it was the last thing in the world I felt like doing because I would rather that than see her cry. She knows this and knows how to play me. But she is three. You can only reason so far and so much with a three year old that cannot comprehend the intricate 'why's' and 'how's'. As she matures, she will understand and comprehend more and more will be expected of her. The tears will always hurt me, but they will not always work on me the way she wants them to, and THAT she will learn as well.
